Woman’s List To Partner PERFECTLY Explains How To Help With Anxiety Attacks

This is SO helpful!

Woman’s List To Partner PERFECTLY Explains How To Help With Anxiety Attacks

Do you know someone who suffers from anxiety? Do you know how to help them through it?

A young woman who suffers from anxiety and panic attacks has taken to the internet to share a list she created for her boyfriend to help him better understand her condition and how to help her. 

27-year-old Kelsey Darragh took to Twitter to share the list she had written for her boyfriend. 


Titled "15 Realistic things you can do to help me through a panic attack,” this is what Kelsey wrote. 

  1. "Know that I am scared and won’t be able to explain why, so please don’t freak out or be annoyed w/ me. 
  2. Find my meds if they’re nearby and make sure I take it 
  3. Breathing exercises are going to frustrate me but they are vital. Try and get me to sync my breathing with yours. 
  4. Make GENTLE suggestions of things we could do TOGETHER to distract my panic (Don’t tell me what I need/should do [and listen when I say no to something])
  5. For dissociative panic = remind me that this has happened before and this too shall pass! It always does, but it’s scary AF when its happening so maybe tell me some fun facts about me or our life together that will make me smile of laugh
  6. Sips of water can be helpful but don’t tell me I need to eat or drink b/c trust me I feel like I’m going to vomit
  7. Keep breathing w/ me!
  8. If we can leave where we are - take me home!
  9. Plz b rly rly nice 2 me. I’m not feeling like myself and I’m embarrassed and feeling guilty already for putting you through this so please don’t get frustrated w/ me
  10. Sometimes a really big, loose, long hug will help me feel safe
  11. Helping me breathe will be hard but SO key!
  12. If its really bad - call my mum or sister or BFF on the phone for me
  13. Tell me not to fight it - rather, let it pass through me. The more I try to control it [or for YOU to try and control it] the worse it will be
  14. EMPATHISE w/ me! You may not get it. but you get ME!
  15. Once it passes (like hours later), open up a dialogue w/ me about it. How’d you do? What can we do next time?"


I don’t know about everyone else, but as someone who suffers from anxiety myself, these points are VERY on point as to what would help me. 

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If you are concerned about your own emotional wellbeing, are experiencing a personal crisis or are concerned about someone else, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or at www.lifeline.org.au

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