Image Credit: Facebook @ Alora Brinkley.
Parenting isn’t an easy job, but it sure is one of the most rewarding and love-filled things in the world.
One father and husband, David Brinkley, decided to share a touching story about his wife on the successful Facebook page Love What Matters.
His post was shared with the intention of encouraging other fathers to respect their wives and to profess his intense appreciation for his own wife.
Despite the intentions, David’s post has sparked a massive debate about one of the topics he touches upon: co-sleeping.
David wrote of his wife being the ‘best friend’ type, and explained a conversation she had with a friend of hers.
“Recently she was talking to a friend and they were talking about this thing called ‘co-sleeping’ and I heard the other person ask ‘doesn’t your husband hate that? My husband would never let me do that.’ This blew my mind and has bothered me for days. So I just decided to come out as a man and set a few things straight.”
David was shocked by the friend’s answer, adding that he would “never degrade or disregard anything she feels like doing for [the] children.”
He also emphatically plead that men should learn to appreciate their wives decisions more, explaining, “Do I have to squeeze into a small corner of the bed sometimes? Yeah? But my God how beautiful does she look holding my children? Making them feel loved and safe?
"The thing is that our wives only experience these little seasons in motherhood for a short time. They carry our babies, they birth them, they nurture them and maybe while they are little they let them crawl into our beds and snuggle.”
The post was heart-warming in his obvious respect for his wife and the support for co-sleeping he is trying to gain, however many people have hit back in debate with concerns.
Detractors of this practice, including Centres for Disease Control and Prevention, believe that it can lead to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome or accidental suffocation.
Some health professionals replied to David’s post, writing, “Love that you love your kids and your wife, and clearly you do. With that said, I work with CPS in the fatality unit and it is extremely dangerous to sleep with babies age one year and younger. Practice safe sleep.”
Other users told of their horrific tales of the high risks parents take when co-sleeping, arguing that “Babies should sleep alone, on their back, in a crib.”
Another user spoke of the horrible outcomes that can result from co-sleeping:
“Not until you work in a paediatric emergency department and see the devastation of a family whose baby has died while ‘snuggling’ can you really understand how irresponsible and reckless this is. I’ve seen it happen countless times, done CPR on countless babies, and stood with shattered families who said they don’t understand how it happened. Babies die everyday because of co-sleeping.”
Despite the backlash, there were those with open support for the concept of co-sleeping and its benefits.
One user wrote, “Co-sleeping happened for thousands of years until we became a ‘civilised’ society and put the kids at the other end of the house! It’s been proven that it calms the kids and the mothers and encourages somewhat deeper sleep. Only when done with safety in mind, of course.”
And another: “My oldest came into our bed every night for seven years, my youngest woke me one morning and actually saved our lives as gas was all through the house! Our kids grow up too fast and those days are gone forever…it’s precious savour it."
The majority of safety concerns in regards to co-sleeping were directed at sleeping with young infants.
David’s post has now been deleted, but the debate continues.